young couples, I ask them, "What is marriage?" They may give me many
romantic ideas about marriage, but they often miss the foundation.
commitment. It is an allegiance bonding two into one flesh. Marriage
depend on whether you have good times or bad times together. You are
married. Through sickness or health, the commitment remains. No matter
happens through the years, you are married until death do you part.
with us as we become the Bride of Christ. It is immaterial what our walk
Christ. We are walking with Christ through good times and bad. Apostle
asks, "What will separate us from the love of Christ?" (Romans 8:35)
He concludes that nothing will separate us. Our walk with Christ is for
State promotes adultery
70's, lawyers were drinking and partying because of a new law that was
greatly increase their business. My wife, Rachel, came home from the law
where she worked and said the new law would make it possible for
Oregon to receive a divorce much easier. Under the new provisions, a
could be granted simply because the couple was having "irreconcilable
passage of this law, it was time-consuming and expensive to obtain a
The state recognized a Godly form of marriage. Once united, the couple
"until death do us part." A divorce was granted only for a few
specific reasons, usually because of marital unfaithfulness. And this
to be proved.
lawyers jumping up and down about the new divorce law? They knew that
easy divorce meant more people divorcing and more revenue for lawyers.
years later we are seeing the fruit of this law upon this adulterous
are dealing with, is that the state does not acknowledge true marriage.
state has made an abomination of marriage. The state is promoting
bigamy, but polygamy. Polygamy means having two or more wives or
husbands at the
made a revenue base out of man's desire to have multiple marriages. They
"You can have polygamy, but you must stage out your wives. For a small
we will give you a marriage license and for a greater fee we will grant
divorce," which is no divorce at all.
the paper saying you are divorced, you can legally sleep with another
have children by that woman. However, you are still obligated to
financing the previous wife and children. When you finish with that
pay the state more fees and obtain a second divorce. Then you remarry
another small fee and when you tire of her, you pay the state the larger
set you free to marry a third time. This continues on, and all the while
state makes volumes of revenue off of your polygamy.
I do not recognize this form of multiple marriages. I cannot find
the Holy Scriptures that describes what the state promotes.
the state is doing is allowing people to believe that they are able to
"undo" a marriage and then unite with another partner. But the state
has problems because they are still subject to God. The state recognizes
you cannot just walk away from a marriage. You still have
your wife and children. If you are a divorced male, you become entangled
child support payments, visitation rights and a host of other problems.
to start a new life with a new spouse, but the old marriage does not
becomes nothing but a nightmare for all those involved. And the children
the state promote these ungodly relationships, but the corporate
condone them. The state has a harlot known as the churches and they are
upon the state. The preachers of these churches are aligned with the
promoting polygamy. They are binding people together in the name of the
instead of the Lord Jesus Christ. They marry people under the authority
state marriage license. The harlot Church cannot preach the word of God
marriage because they are beholden to the state. They don't want to lose
tax exempt status and other benefits. Therefore, they go along with the
ideas on marriage and divorce.
described is happening all over America. It is Sodom and Gomorrah, a
"wicked and adulterous generation." The men are like well-fed lusty
stallions; every one neighing after his neighbor's wife (Jeremiah 5:8).
generation is attacking the very heart of the forest. The trees in this
are now diseased. The trees no longer have loyalty to another human
you have no loyalty to your original marriage or to your spouse or your
offspring, then neither will you have loyalty to Jesus Christ or God the
Because of "irreconcilable differences," you part company and do
whatever you want.
saying, "Whatever you see in a microscope, is also true in a
telescope." If you can look into a microscope and see an atom with all
electrons moving around, it looks just like the solar system with the
traveling around the sun. It is just on a different scale.
about the same thing in our family relations and in our relationship
On the small scale of a microscope, we see a family being destroyed
husband and wife have no more loyalty to each other. We see a couple who
flesh being ripped and torn apart.
scale of the telescope, we see men and women being ripped and torn apart
God Almighty. Once they were bonded to God, but then "irreconcilable
differences," arose and they divorced God and married other gods. Now
are committing idolatry. Idolatry in the large realm of God is the same
adultery in the small realm of family. In the microscope we see the
of the family, in the telescope we see the destruction of society.
And I say unto you,
put away his WIFE, EXCEPT IT BE FOR FORNICATION, and shall marry
another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is
doth commit adultery. Matthew 19:9
19:9 allow a man to divorce his wife if she commits adultery?
Testament gives no grounds for divorce. When Jesus made an exception to
marriage law at Matthew 5:32 and 19:9, it was for a betrothed wife, not a
why the word WIFE is used at Matthew 5:32 and 19:9, we need to know a
about Jewish customs because Matthew was writing to a Jewish audience.
a social practice called "BETROTHAL," which is similar to engagement
today. Betrothal starts when a couple agrees to give themselves to each
marriage and ends in the actual marriage. Jewish betrothal
is different from modern-day engagement in one significant way. Once a
was betrothed, they were regarded by the rest of society as "one
flesh" and were called husband and wife. Usually within a year to
months after becoming betrothed, the couple consummated the marriage.
society during the period of engagement, if the couple change their
break up and start over again. In Jewish society, however, once a couple
betrothed, they could not just call it quits. A betrothed couple in
society had to obtain a LEGAL DIVORCE. Even though they were only
had never lived together as man and wife, they were considered married
get a divorce if they wanted to separate. This custom can be proved
Mary is called "wife"
1:18-20 and 24-25. Here is a passage most of us have read many times and
possibly missed a powerful truth that reveals this Jewish custom. Notice
Joseph and Mary are called HUSBAND and WIFE, even though they were only
betrothed or engaged:
Now the birth of Jesus
on this wise; When as his mother Mary was ESPOUSED (engaged) to
before they came together, she was found with child of the Holy
Then Joseph HER HUSBAND, (espoused, but called husband) being a
man, and not willing to make her a public example, was minded to
away privily. (literally, divorce her)
even though they had not yet consummated the marriage, Joseph was
But while he thought on
things, behold, the angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a
saying, "Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee
MARY, THY WIFE: for that which is conceived in her is of the
Then Joseph being raised
sleep, did as the angel of the Lord had bidden him and took unto
WIFE: and KNEW HER NOT till she had brought forth her firstborn
she called his name Jesus.
raised in Jewish society, was aware of this Jewish custom of being
husband and wife during the betrothal period. Matthew records this
provision, not as a universal exception, but only as a clarification to
concerning the betrothal relationship. The exception is for a betrothed
when FORNICATION is committed BEFORE their marriage vows make them one
life. The principle of the permanency of marriage that Jesus teaches
only to those who have consummated their marriage, not to those who are
No exception in parallel passages
understanding of Jewish custom, Matthew 5:32 and 19:9 concur with the
parallel passages of Luke 16:18 and Mark 10:11. If we take out the
IT BE FOR FORNICATION" clause, then Matthew 19:9 is almost identical to
Whosoever shall put away
and shall marry another, committeth adultery; and whoso marrieth
which is put away doth commit adultery. (Matthew 19:9 with
Whosoever putteth away his
and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever
that is put away from her husband committeth adultery. Luke
appears to make an exception to the marriage covenant that is not made
parallel passages at Mark 10:11 and Luke 16:18. But when the passage is
without the exception clause, it harmonizes with the rest of the New
teachings on marriage.
Fornication vs adultery
we know the exception clause is referring to a BETROTHED WIFE and not a
wife, is that Jesus makes the exception for FORNICATION, not for
FORNICATION is illicit sex between an UNMARRIED couple. If Jesus was
to a real wife, why didn't He say "except it be for adultery"?
translated "fornication" is "porneia" in Greek. "Porneia"
generally means illicit sexual relations between an UNMARRIED couple. If
wife were unfaithful, she would commit adultery, not fornication.
translations sometimes confuse the issue because they translate the
PORNEIA not as fornication, but as the general term "sexual
immorality." However, none of the modern translations we have seen
translate PORNEIA as adultery.
to say adultery is grounds for divorce, why wasn't a derivative of the
word "Moichao" used? That is the word translated as adultery in the
same verse. "Moichao" (adultery) occurs when a married person violates
that fornication means adultery in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9. Then we could
that if a spouse commits adultery, it is grounds for divorce and
remarriage. But how can this be? It flies in the face of what Jesus and
Paul speak about so clearly elsewhere in the New Testament. Earlier in
Chapter 19, verse 6, Jesus says that a man and woman are joined as one
no man can divide them. To seek a divorce, is to allow a man
separate what God has put together. Both Jesus and Apostle Paul
those who divorce and marry another commit adultery. Once the marriage
consummated, there are no escape clauses. Marriage is until death do you
Only death ends marriage
Jesus' teaching of being one flesh for life by saying in effect:
separate, stay single or reunite with your only spouse, for if you do
before your partner dies, you are an adulterer or an adulteress; and
SHALL NOT INHERIT THE KINGDOM OF GOD. (See 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 and
a eunuch, he cannot go back to his former state. When one marries, they
go back to the unmarried state. Marriage is permanent. No wonder
disciples said to Him, "If such is the case of the man with his wife, it
better not to marry" (Matthew 19:10).
a man to divorce his wife because of adultery? No, the scripture remains
the only way out of marriage is death.
For the woman which hath an
is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if
husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So
while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she
called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free
law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to
The blood covenant
founded upon the commitment of a man and a woman giving their lives and
fortunes to each other, binding them into one whole. The woman comes
covering of the man. The man has an obligation to that woman, "till
do they part," to be her covering. He is to take care of her and to have
children by her, through good times and bad times, through health and in
sickness. He is not going to be able to have just the good times. He is
going to have to go through the bad times. Marriage does not hinge upon
it is an exciting time or an unexciting time. Marriage remains a
commitment that is not dependent upon circumstances.
covenant between two people. Some say it is a "blood covenant." The
woman, a virgin, spills her blood on their wedding night. Blood binds
covenant. This is not always true because there are situations where a
dies, and the other is free to remarry. In that instance, if the widow
remarries, there is no blood spilt, but there is still a covenant,
death do us part."
No sin in first marriage
of the families who followed the state and thought they could divorce
remarry? People come up to me and say, "I wasn't a Christian back in the
days of my first marriage. Now I'm on my second marriage. Is my first
forgiven so that I can remain with my second wife?"
question. What is there to forgive on your first marriage? Is it not
marriage? There is nothing to forgive. What are you asking for? You are
to remain in adultery. I find everybody looking for justification to
adultery. If you have a problem, why not seek out the way you can undo
adultery? The first step is to leave the adulterous relationship. If
children involved, you are still responsible for them, but cut out the
Walk away from it. You cannot remain there.
number one. That is repentance. To repent of an adulterous relationship,
quit committing adultery. It is like everything else. If you are angry,
you repent of anger? You quit being angry. To have a repentant attitude,
quit doing it. If you find you are an alcoholic, what is repentance?
drinking. Stop going to the persons, places and things that cause you to
The same thing is true with an adulterous relationship. If you are in
how do you repent? You must leave the relationship. That is step number
to be married? Then go back to your original wife or husband.
have already remarried," you say.
them? God does not recognize their marriage. They are in an adulterous
relationship. It is an adulterous generation. Everybody is in adultery
seems nobody is sleeping with their God-ordained partner.
that the state, who has been promoting polygamy in a structured manner,
going to prevent you from going back to your spouse. What you are
not God. You are fighting the state. And the state is fighting God.